When you’re drawing up your co-parenting agreement you might be wondering what exactly the most important clause is that you need to remember to include.
There are many details in your co-parenting agreement that shouldn’t be forgotten, and together with your co-parenting team you will need to hash out the details of your intentions with regards to you, your co-parent(s) and your child.
- Each of the co-parents’ right to the child. If your sperm donor is just a donor, this should be set out in the agreement. If you are to have equal rights to the child’s upbringing, this should also be clear. If one of the parents is going to be the primary parent in the child’s life, you need to hash out the details of how this will work.
- Each of the co-parents’ obligations to the child. Similarly to above, the amount of involvement in the child’s upbringing will directly relate to the amount of responsibility each of the co-parents has.
- Legal parents. You will need to set out exactly who will be the legal parents of the child, and this may vary depending on where you live. You may have four parties involved, but local co-parenting laws stipulate that only two parties can legally be parents.
- Mutual goals for your children. Before insemination you might not even have thought about schools and universities, but this should be discussed and stipulated on paper before you begin, as you might find that all parties have differing views.
Amongst these important co-parenting clauses, you should also discuss your parental relationship, sharing time and residence, naming of the child and its birth certificate.
But from all of these clauses, the most important is most likely how you will adapt to change. Throughout your co-parenting journey you will encounter changes in how you feel, what the child needs and anything else, and so your co-parenting agreement should set out how you will jointly mediate and modify the co-parenting contract, and your parenting as the child grows.